Weekend Recap: I’m spent…

UPDATE: Jon's grandpa passed away about an hour ago. Thank you for all your thoughts and prayers.

Nothing too exciting to report this Monday.



We got a phone call Saturday morning while on our morning walk with the pups that Jon’s grandfather who now lives in a nursing home and has been in hospice care for a year and half was doing very badly.



So we rushed off to the nursing home with Jon’s sisters and spent the day there. 



It was emotionally exhausting. Lots of tears and watching Jon’s grandma fall to pieces.



He is still with us, but things are just getting worse not better. One of our close friends is a doctor and is in her first year of residency. We had dinner with her and her hubby last night and I discussed with her the sound of his breathing and apparently she said that it is called a death rattle and that he probably only has a matter of days.



Most of the family has come to terms with what's going to happen. It's been a long road where we have seen him suffer and only wish him to finally have some peace and comfort, but Jon's grandma is a whole other story. She is losing her partner and that is something that I don't think I will ever be prepared for. She would rather have him like this then not have him at all.

My brain is in fog and truthfully I can’t even think of anything remotely design related to post about today so I figured I would just let you all know what is on my mind.



Sorry for the sad post.

xoxo,



Camila

41 comments:

journeychic said...

So sorry to read this! I remember hearing my grandma breathe that way in the day or so before she passed. It's awful to hear it and worry that your loved one is suffering. Hopefully the end will come quickly and painlessly for him! You're in my thoughts.

pve design said...

My thoughts are with you and your family.
Never easy to see a loved one slip away.
pve

Lynett said...

Oh Camila, I'm sorry for you and Jon's family...My thoughts are prayers are with you all. I can't even imagine how Jon's grandmother must feel losing her life long partner...That must be the most difficult thing ever :(

LindsB said...

I am so sorry to hear this news, its never easy to watch a loved one like this and even harder to watch a loved one watch their partner in the process. I totally know how you feel, I had to watch my grandma go though the same thing only two months ago. My thoughts are with you and Jon. xoxox

Jenny said...

Isn't it strange how petty home decor seems at times like this? I'm sorry to hear that you and your husband are going through such a hard experience. It is a rough one.

Thoughts and prayers going out to you and your family..

love,
Jenny

meohmyoh said...

Sad sad news :[ I will keep you and yours in my thoughts, Jon's grandmother is still lucky to have such a supportive family to help her though this as well <3

Gwen said...

My thought are with your family and especially Jon's grandmother. I wish him peace and her strength:)

Miss Madras said...

My thoughts are with you and Jon and the family as you endure the next steps.

The Southern Lady said...

Camila, my heart gores out to you, Jon, and the rest of his family. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers during these difficult times.

MyLittleHappyPlace said...

Thoughts and prayers to you and yours. Take Care.

Alicia B. Designs said...

I'm so sorry to hear about Jon's grandfather! I'm sending positive strong thoughts your way. :)
xoxo
Alicia

laurenfromtexas said...

I'm so sorry. I don't have anything good to say, just that my thoughts and prayers are with y'all.

xo

New England Girl said...

Sending love and prayers to you and your family. What a sad time for all of you. I will be keeping you in my thoughts.

Sweet Nothings said...

keeping your family in my prayers
:(

Karen@StrictlySimpleStyle said...

Your thoughts are exactly where they should be. Such a difficult thing to see someone you love suffer and just as difficult to see their spouse going through the process of having to say goodbye.

Kylie said...

Oh Camila, I'm praying for you and Jon's family. Sending love and hugs your way...

Kylie
xxx

my favorite and my best said...

goddamnit!! i hate that for you.
i hope that his passing is easy on him and his wife can see that it's better that he is not suffering. we are going thru something similar in our family. being there for her is the best you can do.
i will send some good energy your way.
xoj

Laura Casey Interiors said...

I am sorry to hear this for you all and Jon's grandmother. I hope that he has lived a long and happy life.

Sarah - La Jeune Marie said...

Cam, my grandfather just passed and I went through these exact situations. Feel free to email me if you want to talk. My prayers are with you and your family right now.

Pink Wallpaper said...

i totally know where you are coming from having just lost my sweet grandfather two months ago...my thoughts are w/ you and your family.

Design Esquire said...

You and Jon are in my thoughts and prayers.

Dagny @ Beautiful Living said...

I'm so sorry... These things are never easy :(

Meg said...

You guys are both in my prayers. The death rattle definitely is not a pleasant sound--like you friend said, it is a sign of the end. I hope the transition is peaceful for him and your hubby as well as his family.

Joi said...

My thoughts are with you. ♥

Emily said...

So sorry to hear about Jon's grandfather. I hope all goes well and you are in my thoughts!

Yansy said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your sad news. I went through a similar face with my boyfriends grandfather two years ago. He passed away recently after falling and things only got worst from there. All, I can tell you is to rest and be there for your hubby and his family. You and your family will be in my prayers.

PS~Erin said...

What a tough thing to be going through for your family. I'm thinking of you.

Under a Green Roof said...

so sorry to hear this. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

Tamstyles said...

Sorry for the news...I had to deal with that when my grandmother was in hospice. there is nothing like it ever...watching them slowly go, day after day is hard...but with time, we are all healed...but it takes time. yall are in my prayers.

A Gift Wrapped Life said...

It's never easy......so sorry to hear you have to go through this. I know you will be there for your grandma. She is going to be lost without her partner. Thinking of you.

nkp said...

So very sorry to hear this, Camila. My most sincere, heartfelt wishes that your family finds peace in this painful process.

.nkp

High-Heeled Foot in the door said...

Thanks for all your sweet words! It really means a lot to me to know that there are so many people thinking of us.

Went to the nursing home yesterday and stayed awhile with Jon's Grandma and Aunt. His condition is remaining the same and we just keep hearing it's a matter of days.

Grandma broke down a bit when all the aides and nurses started coming in to check in on her and say goodbye to Grandpa. She keeps saying she's not ready for this, that she kinda likes the guy.

My mom was there with me and just told her that she needs to take things one day at a time. That she will be strong enough when the time comes.

Still sad.

Anyway I'm backed up with work so I need to attend to that today and then back tomorrow with hopefully something design related.

Thanks for all the love!

xoxo,

Camila

Magchunk said...

Missed this yesterday, but just wanted to say my thoughts are also with you and Jon and his family. I think your mom is right, she will have the strength to let go when it's time. So hard, but it sounds like they had a wonderful long life together. Hugs.

urbansardines said...

Oh, no! I'm so sorry to hear this. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Haven and Home said...

Hi Love,

I have been there a few times with my Grandparents and we are heading there again with my Grandmother. I can't tell you how sorry I am to hear this, I will be thinking about you and the family. When you wrote that part about losing a partner I lost it. Stay strong and know we are thinking about y'all!

Love,

Marianne

paula said...

oh my, you and your family will be in my prayers.

Laura Casey Interiors said...

Camila, I am so sorry. my thoughts are with you all.

Michelle said...

sending hugs your way! Get some rest :)

Best,
Michelle

highglossblue.blogspot said...

Thoughts are with you & yours, Camila.

Dagny @ Beautiful Living said...

Oh no, I'm sorry :( I hope Jon's grandmother is ok. This must be so tough for her. I lost my grandmother a few years ago, and it's been so hard on my grandfather :(

Kristen Sara said...

I am so, so sorry to hear about your loss. I will keep you and your family and especially Jon's grandma in my prayers. I hope peace and healing find their ways into your hearts.